Polyamory is seen as very different than other “love styles” by some people. However, it does not exist in a separate realm. The similarities are important to keep in mind when we examine polyamory, the openness to intimate love with more than one person.
I have been asked whether or not polyamory is about sexuality, or if it is about love. I’ve stated that if it were not for the element of sexuality there would be no need for a polyamory movement. In other words, sharing the body of another human being is the greatest ego challenge we face in our desire to experience unconditional love.
Polyamory questions the requirement of sexual monogamy. This is may feel like a great threat to our sense of security. However, there is no greater sense of security in a relationship than knowing your love is not threatened by the presence of more love.
- Common Ground between Polyamory and Traditional Dating
Both are explorations of emotions, intimacy and sexuality.
- Common Ground between Polyamory and Traditional Marriage
Both are explorations of connecting in a deep, meaningful way.
- Common Ground between Polyamory and “Casual Dating”
Both are explorations of sexuality without restricting the other person.
- Common Ground between Polyamory and “Swinging”
Both are explorations of sexual diversity beyond traditional limitations.
- Common Ground between Polyamory and Polygamy/Polyandry
Both are explorations of non-traditional communion with others.
- Common Ground between Polyamory and Celibacy
Both are explorations one’s relationship with one’s self.
We may be socialized to pay great attention to the differences between people, groups and beliefs. However, as we see that we share common ground, we feel closer with each other, and less isolated in our quest to become who we are.